Why You Shouldn’t Ask Someone When They’re Going to Have Kids

4. They Want Kids, Just Not Now. If someone is in their 20s, it may not be a good time to have kids yet. The couple is focusing on their marriage, their careers or want to travel and accomplish things before settling down with a baby. If you’re in your 20s and have life figured out, that’s great! I’m 26 and have days where I still don’t feel like a grown-up and am still Googling how to do “adult” things, like how to file taxes or clean my oven.